Then they always say they want someone who is intelligent. However, when ever we converse they say …"you’re brilliant I like the way your mind works" then after about a week or so they say "why you think you know everythang" whenever I point something out using basic logic. Why do men act this way?

That is what a particular guy is looking for.

I always had this elitist view that i only listened to the legends such as the doors or pink floyd, and i always had a grudge against pop and the mainstream music. Cause as a musician I always tried to create the most brilliant piece of music, which is rock, and i felt like pop was trying to twist people into only liking simple music and not appreciate real art. But now i’m actually starting to like this kinda music, and a part of me doesn’t want to because its the complete opposite of the music i create or the ones i listen to?

It is if you like pop-punk (bands that only complain about girls dumping them or parents restricting them!)

Why the fuck do they have to brainwash people like that … it pisses me off.

They always make the WITH MAKEUP picture look brilliant of course, with the woman smiling and having professional photo lighting on their faces. Then, WITHOUT MAKEUP, they always show the picture of the woman as if she is really unhappy and has had the photo taken in a low lighted area or something.

Why can’t they ever show a fair picture? Woman aren’t that ugly without makeup and it pisses me off to see these Media tards always trying to say otherwise.

That’s how they sell their product! Since the product doesn’t ACTUALLY work all that well, they have to exaggerate how amazing it is.

From my perspective, wedding rings are symbols, and I want my wife to wear a symbol that says from a distance… MARRIED. But it is "the ring" and the finger which it is on that stands as the symbol… not the stone.

For some reason, it is acceptable for a married woman to wear a single wedding band as a symbol of marriage. But if her man gives her a diamond look-a-like, somehow that is NOT okay.

The Diamond Industry has done their job. They have brainwashed consumers into believing that the 4 C’s are a measure of how much you love your lady. We have also been brainwashed to believe that buying CZ’s or Russian Brilliants as wedding rings, is somehow cheating.

I don’t buy into this… but I must admit that the argument does weigh on my heart a little bit. Not a lot, yet enough to prompt me to post this request for insight and feedback from the readers of this forum.

I want to buy an engagement ring/wedding set. I can not afford to buy her the diamond wedding set that I would really like for her to have (Round 1ct VS2 D-F, with channel set diamond band). If I could, I would just do it, despite my thoughts about the matter. Let me also point out that I do not want to "upgrade" later.

If I purchased CZ’s or Russian Brilliants, I could get exactly what I want… but this is precisely my dilemma.

I am not concerned with what people would think of me if they were told that my wife wore a CZ or Russian Brilliant. It’s just that I would like to do what I feel in my heart, and give her something that I really want her to have. I want the ring purchase to be a surprise, so I don’t want to ask her. On the other hand, part of me just wants to follow my heart, but I don’t want her to be disappointed. Then there is always the question of how to handle the issue when it came up down the road.

I am truly torn. I would appreciate some insight.

Thanks in advance!

First off from a female perspective you already have major brownie points for being concerned about what she would think and not trying to be sneaky about it, I saw a guy one time try to pass off a fake stone for real and it was the lying about it that hurt the relationship, not the fake stone.

I understand completely. I have talked about this same thing, I actually told him I didn’t care if the stone was real or not my only concern was with the metal it was set in because I have certain metal allergies, and that it needs to be able to hold up over time.

There is nothing wrong with not buying a real diamond, the only way you could go wrong is if you don’t find out what she wants. Some girls I know are dead set on having a real diamond and would take a smaller size for it to be real, whereas others would prefer a larger size or being able to put money towards the honeymoon. I would assume that you have already spoken about marriage so she knows that engagement will be happening and you can find out about what she likes in a ring without it being a big deal. If you are out shopping in a mall stop by a jewelry store and go look at a watch for you, chances are she will get bored and venture over to the rings and you can start up a conversation without her thinking anything about it. Another option is to make a joke about it to lighten the mood, make a comment about Facebook thinking it is time for you two to get married because there was an ad for rings on your page, say you saw a show about diamond substitutes or talk to her friends. Of course all of this depends on your relationship, but just some general ideas.

In my situation he told me I can have free reign over the wedding but he wanted to surprise me and plan out the entire engagement. We have talked about it enough and he was willing to look at pictures of what I liked. Even though I was not shopping for the ring with him I was comfortable knowing that he took the time to get an idea of what my dream ring was and he’s comfortable that he isn’t shopping blind.

Just know she will be happy with whatever you decide on and I wish you two the best.

From my childhood people say you are brilliant and speedy, so i have doubt that to sustain this position am i reacting negative to society? i trust in god so i hate some activites in world like selfishness etc. I like hitler, jone of arc, alexnder etc so i doubt myself am i something wrong? aggressive? very confussion.

Your personality is not a weird one…..nice character.
But the problem as you know in your deep down is that you are not aggressive.
Not being aggressive is not a bad habit provided,.If you don’t want to be the centre of attention.
You are normal but I see difficulty in the future as being nice gives license for others to dominate you.
Even not in large doses , small doses of selfishness is good.
As some monk said
"Those without self Interest lack Ambition"

I had a brilliant idea to do something, so I got up, walked away from the computer and… forgot it. That always seems to happen to me, so I’m wondering what are some things I could do to jog my memory of that idea I had. No idea what it was about. Thanks for the help (:

Just wait and usually within 90 seconds it recurs to you. OR if you walked like you did, go back to where you were at the computer and often that will remind you. Either you are on overload doing too much or it is your short term memory. I always say it is the former!!!

hes around 32.even when hes in public or meeting people he looks as if he is always observing things,thinking about something and looks constantly troubled and preoccupied as if hes always thinking.he sometimes looks at others even while shaking hands with people and sometimes looks around while writing too.he speaks less and is always in a serious mood.sometimes hes jovial but the very next moment hes serious again though he has a brilliant career,sound financial status and a good family life(loves his daughter) though hes said to have feelings for another girl other than his wife.he loves black gold blue colors,likes tattoos,skulls images,psychopath people, villainous characters in movies and likes to interact or get platonic especially with younger girls.is said to be gods gift to women.does he feel incomplete?
hes my bf’s best friend and both me and my bf were discussing this.he never opens up to my bf too.any idea what maybe the reason?

because he always has to deal with something

Hey.
okay, i feel so incomprehensibly terrible.
basically, yesterday, someone took something I said out of context. I know the wording wasnt brilliant, but a friend and I were talking about evolution, after having just watched a programme on it. It was about how people started out in africa and migrated all over the world as the evolved. So black people turned white or asian etc,for evolutionary reasons, etc etc.
and I said, during this coversation as we were leaving school, as part of a whole conversation, "so white people are technically further up in the evolutionary chain?" as a sort of question. unfortunatley the delivery wasnt too good.I was trying to portray the ridiculousness of it all within it, but my mind was elsewhere and it came out sounding like a statement. at that very moment, a mixed race girl walked past and gave me the worst stare I have ever received. My friends all think its hilarious, and I wish they wouldnt, because i feel so shite. I panices and went "what?! I saw it on TV!" out of utter panic, I am so frikkin stupid. i am obviously not a racist in any way shape or form.
Now im just paranoid. I am having frequent severe panic attacks, I cant stop thinking about it, and I’ve had no sleep for the past day. I would apologise personally, but I dont know who she is or where to find her. I would hate people to think of me as racist or whatever, because Im really not, but Im just panic attacking and I cant stop crying or self-harming out of fear.
What should I do? I could always tell a teacher, but they would think Im racist too and lecture me about it! I know what I did was sooo stupid and I just feel so frikkin terrible in every single way. should I just leave it? this really sucks, and all my friends are being so inconsiderate about it. Im already a moderately frequent self-harmer and I could not hate myself any more than I do right now.
I just ant a way out, and that seems to be moving away (which will never happen) or suicide, and never have I been so tempted. I could just walk in front of a car- at least that’d buy me time. This is screwing me up so bad.
Please help me
Thanks

I think you suffer from the "making a mountain out of a mole hill" syndrome.

Let it go. Let you reputation speak for you. I know it is a terrible feeling but it was not as if you meant any of it, so first, forgive yourself and then go on with your life. You are a good person and you will have ample occasions to redeem yourself, if only for your own good.

I suffer the same bloody stupidity when I am around black people, or stutterers, I start saying stuff out of context and I start stuttering… incomprehensible is it?

First and foremost, forgive yourself! That one is important.

Sorry for the length, but I would really really appreciate it if you could read it! Thank you!

Alright, so I got drunk for the first time last Sunday (so, what, 5 days ago?), and ever since then I’ve been feeling kind of weird. (I’m 16 y/o female btw)
To be honest I don’t think it’s anything to do with me having gotten drunk, but as I only started feeling weird after I did I can’t rule it out.

I’ve just been feeling out of it really.
- Whenever I say anything, it feels like it wasn’t really me that said it. I know that I said it and I know I planned to say it, but after I’ve said it it feels like I didn’t really say it.
- I can’t seem to concentrate very well. I feel restless and bored all the time. If I get into doing something though I’ll feel okay, but if I get interrupted I’ll start feeling weird.
- It feels like nothing is real. Earlier today I seriously wondered if I was dreaming this and if I would wake up sometime.
- When I’m talking to people, I keep saying the first thing that comes to mind. This is really unusual for me because I usually think about what I say before I say it. I also seem to have been talking more recently, saying things I would never usually say.
- I seem to have lost my sense of time. Yes, it wasn’t brilliant to start with, but now it’s just gone. For example, I can’t remember exactly what I did, but I did something like walking up the stairs and it seemed like an hour had passed by when I got upstairs.
- I feel sort of fuzzy, as if I’m watching someone else instead of actually doing what I’m doing. It’s as though I’m in someone else’s body just observing.

That really doesn’t sum up how I feel, but I have no idea how to explain it. I just feel really out of it and not myself. There are more things, but I don’t know how to put it.

Also I’ve noticed that one of my pupils is sometimes bigger than the other. I’ve noticed it about four times, but obviously I’m not always looking in a mirror to see. It’s always been my left pupil that’s bigger than my right. I noticed this for the first time before Sunday when I got drunk.

Sorry for the long question/post/whatever, but I would really appreciate some thoughts on what could be wrong with me, if anything. Is it just stress and anxiety, or could it be something more?
Thanks so much for reading.
@Amanda - This is the first time I’ve actually been drunk. Yes I’ve had drink before, but never got drunk like this time. Since Sunday I haven’t had any more though, and I don’t plan to any time soon!
@Claude B - I should have mentioned that I was round my best friend’s house. It was me and three other people, plus her mother.
I know there is no way any of them would have put anything in any drinks, plus they were in unopened bottles and we shared.

Yes I have the answer, STOP DRINKING YOU’RE TOO YOUNG! DON’T WRECK YOUR LIFE YOUNG!

Hope I helped[:

I always wanted to do something nice to all my teachers who have helped me out throughout the year. I really want to show them how much I appreciated all their efforts and supports. What should I do? Any brilliant ideas? Thanks

I don’t think hosting a party is necessary…and you may even be making it awkward for them to politely "refuse"….teachers have lives and plans, too…so don’t put them on the spot. If you want to, give them a card of thanks..or you can present each of them with a small gift (but again…if it’s not practical, all they’re doing is collecting "stuff" they’ll never use).

I don’t know your age…but there’s making your own "homemade gifts in a jar" (Google that for ideas)–this way they can enjoy the treat in their own time and you’ve personalized your gift.

Keep in mind the greatest reward for a teacher is to have students enjoy getting their education and having aspirations to go on to great things in life…and continuing the cycle of inspiration. If you were to only just be able to say "thank you" to them>>>that would be rewarding enough.