I just found out today that someone on Yahoo who I greatly admired had passed. I had always read his brilliant and kind replies and had been meaning to tell him how much I appreciated them but failed to do so. Today I asked a legal type Q and thought of him….so I looked at his Q and A….I noticed he had not answered in over 8 months…further investigation revealed he had passed!!
Shouldn’t we tell those people we admire/love/appreciate while we have the time?
sure we should.
but most people do not until after.
maybe it’s only in someone’s passing they realise how much that person meant to them.
I tell the people in my life that i love them, and that i appreciate them - every time i speak with them. Because i really do.
As per your situation, i wouldn’t beat yourself up about it. I’m sure you were good to him in other ways. And the repsonse on Y!A after his passing was enormous. Those kind of things happen, it’s part of life. Just maybe use that as the push to tell others in your life how much you appreciate them.
As per the 1st part of the question — silva half of the people i really loved in life are all dead. Of the few i have left, half of those aren’t talking to me anymore. Idk Y but whatever. Of those that do talk to me (family) nobody knows what to do anymore. And several are sick and i don’t want them to die like the others. Whatever. Life is short, and most of our days are spent in misery. I’ll be glad when it’s over. But sure, i’ve some regrets. But don’t we all.
Nice to see you around. Hope alls well on your end.
♥
February 24th, 2010 at 10:13 pm
I regret not being all I could be in high school ………… I know it sounds cliche but it’s true.
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February 24th, 2010 at 10:55 pm
sure we should.
but most people do not until after.
maybe it’s only in someone’s passing they realise how much that person meant to them.
I tell the people in my life that i love them, and that i appreciate them - every time i speak with them. Because i really do.
As per your situation, i wouldn’t beat yourself up about it. I’m sure you were good to him in other ways. And the repsonse on Y!A after his passing was enormous. Those kind of things happen, it’s part of life. Just maybe use that as the push to tell others in your life how much you appreciate them.
As per the 1st part of the question — silva half of the people i really loved in life are all dead. Of the few i have left, half of those aren’t talking to me anymore. Idk Y but whatever. Of those that do talk to me (family) nobody knows what to do anymore. And several are sick and i don’t want them to die like the others. Whatever. Life is short, and most of our days are spent in misery. I’ll be glad when it’s over. But sure, i’ve some regrets. But don’t we all.
Nice to see you around. Hope alls well on your end.
♥
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February 24th, 2010 at 11:08 pm
Oh, my Lord, that would make me feel terrible.
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February 24th, 2010 at 11:25 pm
You’re right, we should.
One of my biggest regrets is that the last time I spoke to my brother, I didn’t really speak with him. I simply said, "Yeah, here’s Mom." I had spoken to him briefly the night before, and I knew he was calling to report on how he was feeling, and I knew he wanted to speak to our mother. Ten hours later, he was dead.
We did not have a good relationship. Nothing I could have said to him would have changed that. I told him I loved him on a regular basis, and I meant it, but we died with unresolved issues between us.
Since then, I have often wished that I could speak to him for just one hour, and tell him some of the things I kept to myself because we didn’t get along. While I did tell him I loved him, and that I admired him, there are other things I would have liked to tell him, like what a great job he did as a parent. Now, I can only say those things to his widow, my sister-in-law. It comes close, but it is not the same.
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February 24th, 2010 at 11:44 pm
Yes….There will always be something we fail to do, and we will always have a reason for failing to do it.
I failed to go to a funeral that I was expected at. I don’t attend funerals. When my parents died, I found that because there were too many people at the funeral, I only had a few moments with each of them. So I don’t attend. But that wasn’t known…and when I did go to visit, I found myself unwelcome, because of it.
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